Facebook is Full of Idiots... Wait, they are just my friends.

It gives me headaches. People, friends and acquaintances posting status on facebook which doesn't make sense, is logically invalid, or religiously stupid. I should stop going to facebook. It will drive me nuts.

I'll focus on my business now.

Soft Eye Focus, Without a Judging Eye

It is said that the eye is the window to the soul. I always believed that the eyes is the most dynamic and most expressive in all of the organs in the body. But I think I have it wrong when I decided to stare at women with glaring eyes, hoping to attract a potential mate. But instead, I chase them away..

After reading the book The Charisma Myth, I realized that the eyes should be expressed in an open and non-judging way to be charismatic. I glare at women, I stare at them with intensity. But I realized that I understood it wrong. On the contrary, the eyes should be a non-judging and caring eyes like a father to his child. But his posture should be powerful at the same time. This is where warmth and power comes in to play, and with a touch of listening attentively, you begin to exude the charisma you ever dream of.

Crazy About Me

There's only a few instances when the girl that you like, likes you. Without much effort on your part, as if its fate that brought you together. Last night a girl that I like told me that she can't stop thinking about me. It made me happy. Finally, a girl that I like that likes me.

I Told You So

We are not friends. You don't know me, I don't know you either. I'm not mad at you. Nor hold a grudge at you. I just don't want to be associated with people who does not give respect to others.

Call It As It Is

Sometimes, especially women, will try to manipulate you on doing things you don't want to do just because you feel guilty about it. Most women will make you feel guilty to make you do the things they want. Most women are successful in life and learned this skill in manipulation from interacting with a lot of people.

Now that I remember, I usually am a subject of such a manipulation. But then I read a book about assertiveness and realized that this kind of manipulation is detrimental to my well being. Let's say for example, a girl wants you to do her homework, while she have sex with the jackass. You being the nerd, is being capable of doing the homework and if you try to decline. The only way for the girl is to make you feel guilty. And you do the homework while she slept with the douchebag.

The only way to approach the situation is to be assertive. To stand your ground and be honest about it. Without being a jerk. Each of us have their own rights on to where they want to spend their time on. And if the other person felt bad from your rejection, its not your problem. Because your time is yours not hers.

Call it as it is. Say "I don't want to do your homework", "I don't care if you fail." "Even if I'm free tonight, I still don't want to do your homework."

Be honest about it. Without being a jerk. If she asks what is the reason.. Say "No particular reason. I just want to hangout. Not doing anything." Don't be guilty just because you don't have a reason. Your time, is yours. If they feel bad about it. Its their problem. They need to grow up.

The Search for Charisma

Is charisma something you are born with? Is it some kind of a gift from the Gods that only a few people manage to receive and live a life of pure pleasure and success?

These are the questions that come into my mind whenever I get rejected by girls that I like. I used to think that charisma was something you are born with, a blessing from the gods. But recently, I realized that charisma is a skill that can be learned.

I have discovered that being charismatic have 3 important recipe; Presence, Power and Warmth.

Presence is the most important of the 3. Its the sense of being in the moment. To focus your attention to a girl or an activity. I like girls that are so deep into an activity. They are attractive during those times. And I found out the reason why. It is presence. Presence makes people feel special. It is not compliments that make them feel happy. It is your undivided attention. It is the unspoken language. It is what makes people see you as different.

Power makes people feel secure around you. Power gives people the impression that you can change their lives. Power is not merely seen by being in a position of authority. Although most of the time it is. Power is in the ease of movement and being relaxed in every moment. Power to master your emotions and to protect your confidence. Power is to how good is your body language to project charm. Power can also be seen and expressed by having intelligence and money. Power for me, is being relaxed at all times.

Warmth makes people want to like you. If power is the ability to change a person's life, it is in 2 ways, good or bad. People want the good and warmth gives them the assurance that you're in for the better. It cements your charm into them. You are powerful but at the same time you won't do anything bad for them. In fact, you'll do good things for them. They will stick around.

Confess love or Not

If there is one guy that I would listen to all day about charisma and seduction. It is this guy. Wayne Elise. I have huge respect for the guy.