I Told You So

We are not friends. You don't know me, I don't know you either. I'm not mad at you. Nor hold a grudge at you. I just don't want to be associated with people who does not give respect to others.

Call It As It Is

Sometimes, especially women, will try to manipulate you on doing things you don't want to do just because you feel guilty about it. Most women will make you feel guilty to make you do the things they want. Most women are successful in life and learned this skill in manipulation from interacting with a lot of people.

Now that I remember, I usually am a subject of such a manipulation. But then I read a book about assertiveness and realized that this kind of manipulation is detrimental to my well being. Let's say for example, a girl wants you to do her homework, while she have sex with the jackass. You being the nerd, is being capable of doing the homework and if you try to decline. The only way for the girl is to make you feel guilty. And you do the homework while she slept with the douchebag.

The only way to approach the situation is to be assertive. To stand your ground and be honest about it. Without being a jerk. Each of us have their own rights on to where they want to spend their time on. And if the other person felt bad from your rejection, its not your problem. Because your time is yours not hers.

Call it as it is. Say "I don't want to do your homework", "I don't care if you fail." "Even if I'm free tonight, I still don't want to do your homework."

Be honest about it. Without being a jerk. If she asks what is the reason.. Say "No particular reason. I just want to hangout. Not doing anything." Don't be guilty just because you don't have a reason. Your time, is yours. If they feel bad about it. Its their problem. They need to grow up.