Its like a zen thing. To be able to achieve your goal in the most, non-restricting and confident manner (such as wooing a woman) you have to be goalless. I just realized the value of this approach. Being goalless opens your mind. You are not attached to the outcome. And so, you do things and say things as it flows. You become adaptive to what is happening. You become enveloped in the now. You experience things at the present and that makes every conversation unique and powerful. Not to mention its also fun.
I am pursuing this woman that used to be my childhood sweet heart. I used to be careful replying and conversing with her because I don't want to mess this up again. Until I snapped.. I don't want to work anymore. Thinking of what to say, I said to myself "Fuck that. I'm gonna say what I want to say. As long as I don't hurt another human being, expressing my desires should be my top priority." To be accepted or rejected is irrelevant. To express yourself is a must.
This is like a eureka moment for me. The conversation became more unique. And I think we connected emotionally because of that..
From now on, I will promise to be honest to how I feel. As long as I don't hurt people to what I will say, I will say it. Expressing my desires. What I want. In the most emotional words I can come up with. Being accepted or rejected is irrelevant. Being able to express myself is attractive. Having a goal is nice. But being goalless means you are not attached to anything. It makes you feel free and live in the present. It makes any interaction with other people genuine.
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