1st Phase - Open
The start of seduction. The approach. The openers. The pickup lines. And the approach anxiety. There's no way to cure approach anxiety, even top pickup gurus, even after their long struggle to be the top, still have approach anxiety. How did I know this? Because I'm the guru.... Ok... I'm not. They said it so.
2nd Phase - Comfort / Rapport
Rapport is being fun. The woman enjoys being with you. You make her laugh and gives stimulating conversation with her. You want to make the conversation very basic with action words, and feelings. Women relate to feelings and not to facts. Don't be bothered if you're wrong on facts. What's important is you're enjoying it.
During the 2nd phase, you might want to consider some of the following:
- Disqualification - Women have in their minds, the perfect guy. The intelligent, nice, husband material, rich, honest guy that she wants. You will never qualify to this list. So what you do? You claim to be the opposite of it. When a women said "I don't like guys who gossip." This is a subtle qualifying statement. She wants to know if you're a gossiper. And you don't fall for that, you ladies man, you agree and then you disqualify yourself from that list. You say "I totally agree. Gossiping is bad. But I can't help it. I gossip with my 70 year old neighbor and we talk about the women in town."
- Make her commit / Give Effort to the conversation - You don't want the interaction to be a one way monologue. You don't want to look as if you're too interested in her. What you want, is ask open ended questions. Big questions that allows her to think. Then you reward her effort. This will make her feel committed and will also give you a reason to like her. Other than her nice tits.
- Enroll in Acting Class / Comedy Improv Class - Ever wondered why we love witty characters that seems to know what things to say on any situation that will either makes us laugh, melt and say "awwwww" or say "damn right!"? Well, I don't even realized it till now but its true. We tend to be attracted to people that seems witty and knows what to say on every instant. Turns out that its a skill that can be learned. While I prowl the internet for some acting classes, there are some things that I learned to be "witty". One, to pace the conversation. Talk slowly, respond slowly. So everything will look as if you're fast thinker. Talking slowly and taking your time to think of what you'll say exudes confidence. Two, have fun and don't think about the outcome. People will laugh or not. If they don't, call it out so it becomes funny. Three, take the damn classes.
- Lose your Ego -You get rejected, you get angry. You despise all women whom you have been nice and did everything for, yet slept with your room mate who dropped out of school. You approach a woman, have a very good conversation but she has a boyfriend and you're sad leaving the poor damsel alone, hanging. Or my personal favorite, friends and family asking you to marry and settle down, asking you why you don't have a girlfriend and how you're running out of time. You get affected, disgusted with yourself and how every women are the same. This is all ego. Lose yourself. You get angry when you don't get what you want. Because you lost control. Being "ZEN" is the idea here. You want the chips to fall into place without effort. You want to be the ladies man you always wanted to be or to find that perfect girl that you always dreamed of. But in order to do that, you must always be single. And for that, you must be happy being single and alone and women will come into your life. Develop the skills and not be tied to the outcome number close, kiss or sex. These things doesn't matter. What you need is to have fun and enjoy the company of every girl. Women are very beautiful creatures. You will learn to appreciate them both inside and out. You'll learn that they'll be willing to give these all to you if you lose your ego and be confident in yourself.
- Kino - Touch her when she laughs. Make her touch you back by joking around. Touch her!
3rd Phase - Information Gathering
So you made her feel good. You made her laugh. You want to make sure that its ok to escalate to take it further. You want to know some bits about her. Ask her relationship situation. Ask her about who is she with. In my experience... I mean, in the guru's experience as I have read them in books, usually, women will lie about her relationship situation. They will tell you she's single if she likes you. And tell you that she has a boyfriend if she doesn't like you. What you need to make her feel is that you're ok either way. If she has a boyfriend say "Really? And how is it going so far?". Then you relate it with your own relationship experience. Don't dwell on it though and make yourself a relationship therapist. You just want to know if she's dating or dating but not happy. That will give you a reason to hook up. Reveal the cracks in her relationship and you have your reason to date her, without her being guilty about it.
4th Phase - Make It Sexual / Statement of Intent
She gave you reason to escalate. Her relationship is not doing good as well as yours. You connected with her and gave you a reason to hook up. What you want to do next is to turn her on. You want a date but you also don't want it to be too obvious. You want to turn her on first and make her ask for the date. Build the sexual tension. Make it fun. Then let her imagination run wild into hooking up with you. When she decides to meet and how is not you prerogative to fix, but hers. If she likes you, she'll find a way. You're job is to be the romeo of romance novels and make her feel "wet".
5th Phase - The Close
The end.
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